A couple weeks ago, as I was desperately trying to wake up my husband and make him study for his somelier exam, I pulled the blanket off him and the pillow he was holding. That pillow was actually my nursing pillow-which in all honesty I didn’t use that many times for nursing! Me pulling on it resulted in the pillow getting torn apart in half.
After that, it was sitting around for almost two weeks before I finally decided it was time to sew it back and make it look like new. As I was sewing it, it crossed my mind that I’ve met so many people that literally don’t know how to sew or fix anything if it gets broken, so they throw it out or they pay for alterations.
I couldn’t help but feel an enormous amount of gratitude for my mom that thought me (among millions of other things) how to sew and fix things. So, even though in Romania we celebrate Mother’s Day on March 8th, I want to take a moment to say thank you to my mom that had and still has a huge impact in my life and without whom I would not be the same person.
I’m pretty sure all of you out there have at least one or two skills or important life lessons from your mom that you wouldn’t trade for the world. So, feel free to add up to the list!
I will put this one first because that’s how I was inspired to write this post in the first place. Sewing can be done in a lot of ways, but I think being able to sew and fix something is such a special skill that easily gets lost in this era.
Sewing clothes or arts and crafts is also nice to know, but typically you can easily teach yourself arts and crafts if you know some basic sewing techniques used for fixing things like broken socks, missing buttons or small tears in clothes.
You can make it into a bunch of fun activities if you choose some soft canvas or white cotton to sew on, as well as colored thread.
2. KNOWING HOW TO CLEAN WELL
I know actual grown ups who are clueless about how to properly clean and sanitize a home. Maybe that wouldn’t be such a big deal if we would all have money to hire a maid, but even so-for me, knowing how to clean is part of being a responsible adult. I feel like knowing how to do chores properly is sometimes part of growing up and later in life, it helps tremendously by saving you time and money
3 .BEING COST EFFICIENT
Moms can be pretty incredible when it comes to dealing with money. A lot of moms are in charge with the budget in their households and therefore have the sometimes impossible task of having “enough” money for everything-savings, groceries, occasional spoiling or splurging etc. Single moms are on an even more incredible level and they diserve a lot of extra praise. No matter what mom category we are talking about, us moms always have tricks up our sleeves when it comes to budgeting that are a must have skill for kids and even more for teenagers.
4.HOW TO COOK PROPER MEALS
You might think I’m starting to sound like a broken record from the 50’s and I should just call this being a good housewife but the truth is, even if your kids don’t end up getting married or having their own kids, knowing how to cook is a skill they will have with them for the rest of their lives- FROM YOU! Cooking good and healthy and knowing how to make food taste yummy has so many benefits that I can’t begin to count: saves you money, keeps you healthy, brings people and friends together. So knowing how to make food is about so much more than knowing how to be a housewife!
5.TAKING GOOD CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND
Being a wife is hard! Being a good wife is even harder! Be your daughter’s example. Love your husband, build a good, fun relationship with him so your daughter can look at you, see her future self and actually want to get married one day, have a husband to take care of and have a family with. Teach her what to look for in a man!
Your example is the best gift you can give to your daughter for when she will have her own marriage. On the second place would be communication. Don’t be scared to talk to your daughter about what makes a good wife and don’t make marriage a tabu subject. Of course, depending on your daughter’s age, there should be some limits but being open and talking about things is 100 times better than for her to get wrong advice from internet or friends.
6.BEING AND ACTING DECENT
Here, self example is crucial. Being decent doesn’t necessarily mean dressing or acting like a nun (Not that there’s anything wrong with being a nun haha!) but it also means teaching your daughter how to act around boys, how to dress and how to talk so that it’s in her advantage later on. Many moms skip this part of education because they are embarrassed, they don’t know how to approach this type of subject or even because they are not friends at all with their daughters.
A lot of the times, girls have to figure out all of these things on their own, and sometimes the result is not the one we were wishing for-as parents. Don’t be that parent! Talk to your daughter and be her guide trough her tough teenage years.
7. LOVING GOD
Teaching your kids about God makes them better people, regardless of what religion you are.
But, praying, going to church, reading religious books with your daughter creates a stronger mother daughter bond. It’s really important to start doing these things when you daughter is as young as 2 or 3 years old. It’s even more important to always do these things in an inspiring way, that makes it look interesting, useful and I could say even crucial tasks for a happy life. Avoid forcing or making your little one do any of these things because you will get the opposite effect.
If your daughter sees you praying, going to church, practicing fasting and she sees that these things make you happy, they bring you joy and peace, she will be inspired to be the same. Often, moms leave a very strong religious print in our lives. Even people that occasionally lose their spiritual way hold with them this print and eventually come back to being how their mom thought them.
8.READING AND LOVING IT
Intelligent women are known to be more attractive. Now, I know you might not want to think about your daughter being seen as attractive, but we like it or not, our kids will grow up and have to find suitable husbands and wives for themselves.
Read instead of watching TV. You are the first and most important person that can cultivate the love of knowledge and books. You and your husband, of course. Start when they are babies and don’t stop just because they are over the bed time story!
9.FIXING THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE
I know a lot of you will say that this is a dad thing, but stereotypes like that are just not my cup of tea. Knowing how to fix your own things around the house when they break and teaching your daughter as well is a great skill.
It shows independence and being able to figure out things on your own, without relying on someone else or on a man to do it for you. Well, some moms like to teach their daughter to have the “damsel in distress” or princess personality and that is totally fine! But I’m going for the “I can do it” attitude with my daughter so I really think this is an extremely useful skill to learn, especially when you learn it from your mom
10. TABLE MANNERS
There’s nothing worse than a girl that doesn’t know how to behave at the table. Fancy meal or just out for a burger? Don’t wait for her to get into an embarrassing situation, but teach her all the useful things way before she needs to go out in public on her own.
What other important skills would you add to this list? Are you currently working on implementing any of these with your daughters?
Readers suggestions to add to the list:
- knowing how to stand up for herself
- speaking her mind
- take education seriously
- learning a new language
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