Dear husband, today you failed me. I need to tell you this, because you need to know and because I am not the kind of person that holds the things inside. Most of the times, I try to remember to do the things that make your life easier, because I know you work a lot and I don’t want you to get more tired .
So I let you sleep in until 11 in the morning, I put your pajama and your towel in the bathroom at night, so you can take your shower when you come from work, I cook your meals so you don’t have to do it yourself, I make sure you have clean clothes to wear every day and I even brush, feed and clean after the cat that you wanted so badly to have in your life. That’s the short list, because we both know there’s more than that. But husband, today you forgot that you need to remind yourself to make my life easier as well.
You forgot that I go to work as well, even if I work 2 days less than you and I make less money. You also forgot that I almost NEVER sit around with the excuse that I am taking care of our daughter. She is our daughter and she is not to be used as an excuse for anything-not by you or by me! Taking care of her doesn’t mean you can’t do something else in the same time.
It seems to slip your mind that I also cook and clean and care for our daughter so if you do the math, I work more than you! And if you sit down and think, if I could work as a maid and a babysitter and a cook, all in one, I would make more money than you and that would be considered a JOB. But I don’t. Because I want our kid to get a proper education and not be passed off around to relatives and babysitters, only to realize a few years later that she is ANYTHING BUT our daughter. And the only reason you get to work more is because I am there to care for her!
Dear husband, I’m trying very badly not to be mean or disrespectful, but putting a tray of food -that I already prepared the night before- in the oven and overcook it so much that it’s inedible, doesn’t get to pass off as a laziness excuse.
You make me angry when you never do anything without me asking you, because at the end of the day, we should be a team and I am not your boss or your mom, so you shouldn’t do things that make me act like one!
Oh and your phone, ahhh- your phone. I swear I fantasized so many times that I was throwing that thing out the window. I don’t know how you can’t realize that you are wasting such precious time that you will never get back. I might die tomorrow and you will never get to talk to me again, but still you choose to be on your phone more than you need to. Our little bundle of joy will grow up in a blink of an eye and you will never get those moments back! But still, your phone takes away so much of your precious time.
And here is the thing…when you asked me to get a cat because you liked them so much and I agreed because you PROMISED that you would clean the house… well, you are not keeping that promise! Having to tell you 500 million times LET’S CLEAN! and then standing trough your grumpy faces and your hurry while you vacuum is NOT what I signed up for.
Dear husband, I wish you realized that when the closet is empty, that is a subtle HINT that we need to do laundry, and not wait for my sorry, exhausted ass that has to make dinner with a whining toddler after her to come from work to do so!
I am sick and tired of stepping on your cat’s sand when I get out of the shower and even more tired of my bathroom smelling like cat poo! And despite the appearances, I do like to sleep as well and I enjoy having a free half an hour to just sit down and relax, without having to hear any toddler screaming around while strangling the cat and without having crumbs stick to my ass if I lay down on the couch.
Don’t get me wrong, I think having cat hair in my mouth every time I want to touch my face is charming, but really- I shouldn’t be the one who grooms it… I do it anyways, and I do all the other things as well, because I do love you to pieces and I want you to be happy. And yes, I am so grateful to have you as a partner in this parenthood carousel and as an amazing dad to my precious daughter.
But husband, I want you to remember, you need to make my life easier as well!
Your dark eyed circled future wife.